The “I got a gf/bf” problem?

Unpopular opinion: Saying “I got a bf/gf!” isn’t as big of an achievement as people think. It’s what happens after that really matters.

Everywhere on Reddit (Specifically on R/Teenagers), I see people excitedly announcing they finally got a partner, only for them to post weeks or months later about them breaking up, and perchance creating drama. It’s like people treat relationships as some kind of milestone they have to reach, but they don’t actually think about what comes next.

The real dilemma? A lot of people aren’t actually ready for a relationship, they just want to be in one. They chase the idea of having a partner without considering things like emotional maturity, compatibility, or even whether they truly like the person beyond the excitement of having someone. Then, when reality hits and problems arise, they either break up, get stuck in an unhealthy cycle, or start feeling miserable.

And yet, the cycle repeats. “I got a bf/gf!” turns into “We’re having problems,” then “Should I break up?” and finally “We broke up, I’m lost.” Maybe the real flex isn’t rushing into a relationship, but actually taking time to figure out if you’re ready for one in the first place.

But for those who can actually make it work, I’m very happy that you could pull it off. Big respects!